Does he think I do NOTHING! Rant!

[oceanspraypink]

Okay sorry but I had to get this off my chest somewhere, otherwise I was going to scream!

Ill start with my weekend...
Friday :my mother came over to do some yard work since Ryan(fiance) won't do crap! The grass is high, fire ants are so bad that I can't let the kids go out and play, car parts up next to the house. We have had a pipe that has been spraying out under the house, I told Ryan of this 3 months ago! So when he comes home he tells me, don't say anything to your mother, but Im fixing the leak tommorow, (our water bill last month was $70, and this month $90!) and hands me the water bill. I then tell him, well me and mom had done said your DOING it this weekend. So of course he gets all pissy about it, and says Im NOT about to have someone tell me what Im doing. So needless to say our night wasn't plesant. I would have fixted the leak myself if I knew how, and if he would have watched the kids while I was under the house!

Saturday: we go to the meat market and to Sams club. Colt (our son) was only calm in Sams for the first 3 mins or and then starts screaming and wanting to go crazy. I can't handle the stress of Colt and Ryan shaking his stroller and fussing at him and me, so I say lets go! Again this only pisses Ryan off, and all the way out the storre he is telling Emma(our daughter) that mommy is a dumb ass who always wants to leave places, and that I make a scene! On our ride home he stars saying that the only place I will take Colt alone is therapy and doctors apt. and him being the way he is, is only a crutch for me. And starts acting like he knows all about whats going on with Colt...NO! I was the one on the phone with doctors for hours on the phone and in apts with him, and it FINALLY paid off...we got a diagnoses and got him started in therapy, but he acts like he DOES and KNOWS everything about that stuff! He doesn't even pay attention to me when I tell him how his apts. go.

Sunday..okay day I guess! Just watched movies at the house all day. My mother told Ryan he needed to clean out the building and burn some things out back. We took out the carpet in the house about a month ago (me and my mother) and Ryan was suppost to take it to the trash dump, but NEVER did, he left it int he yard this whole time, and killed the grass. But he din NONE of the things he needed to do.

Monday: Ryan goes to work, I get up, wake Emma feed her and get her ready for school. Wake Colt up, get him his juice and take Emma to school. Then back home for Colt and I, feed him, bathe him and head to the doctors. Come home take off trash, I am ALWAYS the one doing this (mans job in my opinion) come home drag the carpet into the back yard( heavy as all get out) feed Colt lunch. Go wait in line for 30 min to pick Emma up from school, then to the grocery store and back home. Feed Emma relax for about an hour while Colt sleeps. Clean some, do laundry and the dishes. Start dinner,Ryan gets home. We eat and then he gets on the computer and looks at tattoos, while I clean up dinner, and get emma bathed and get the kids dressed for bed. Read them 3 stories and tuck them in. He takes a shower ( I had to take a bath WITH the kids IF I wanted to get clean) I fold laundry while he is in shower, Colt is of course NOT in the bed but jumping on it while I attempt to fold laundry. Ryan gets out and walks next to me, and starts flipping through the clothes Ive folded and switches boxers, leaving the once neatly folded clothes a mess now. Buts on his boxers and gets into bed. I put up the clothes and get Colt and lay down as well. Then Ryan rubs my leg and acts like he wants some...well F that! lights out!

I know he works and I don't, but my job don't end at 5:30 like his, it;s 24/7! I don't ask much from him, but to atleast try to help me with the kids and atleast keep up the outside jobs...I can't and take care of the kids. I know I wanted children so don't think Im complaining about taking care of them, Im NOT! I love that! Its just I get no gelp from their father, and we all know I didn't make them alone! I get fussed at atleast once a week and by fussed I mean huge fight aover us not having sex. Well by the time I get the kids ready for bed, Im tired and pissed off at the fact that he does NOTHING when he comes in from work. and Weekends are no different I feed them and cook them every meal, get every fight, and every need of theirs. I change EVERY diaper! He refusses to change a poop one and even leaves the room while I do it!

Again sorry guys but I had to get that frustration out somehow!

[dohcdelsol93]

damn, sounds like he needs a "to do List"

[oceanspraypink]

I give him things to do, but he says I don't feel like it...it's my resting days! So I end up doing it!

[dohcdelsol93]

then i would put up a

"YOU GET NO PUSSY UNTIL YOU DO THIS" list


when my wife wants me to do something she will say "if you do this for me you can have sex with me when your done"

i usually do it right away.

[oceanspraypink]

Yeah but we only have sex like once every 2 weeks.

[dohcdelsol93]

once my wife found out that the best way to get me to do things was to offer sex in return we started having sex alot more


It's hard for me to survive having sex only once a week.

[oceanspraypink]

I just never get in the mood...I need to see the doctor.

Oh get these Taste of America chips away from me, Im making myself sick!

[dohcdelsol93]

you should try to put yourself in the mood.

by watching him do some shit

[oceanspraypink]

Hahahah I like that!

I think I might have to just go and please myself with that line in mind!

[dohcdelsol93]

send me pics of you doing it to make it more erotic and arousing!



or you could just do it after making him a 3 page to do or you don't get any pussy list.

[Kristen]

Originally Posted by oceanspraypink

I just never get in the mood...I need to see the doctor.

How long have you been with him?

I got like this with my ex husband. I did everything and was tired of his lack of nothing so I went back to work full time 2 months after I had my daughter. I had Alexis in daycare, he had to pick her up after work and I would make dinner for HER and I. I made him fend for himself. I did wash for her and myself. She went to bed then I went to bed. I was exhausted but I was DONE being his housewife, secretary, etc. I was living my life with my daughter as a single mom and my husband lived there but I was fed up with putting up with his shit. Honestly, his lack of doing anything and his job (he was military) completely had me fall out of love with him and I had no desire to have sex with him at all and when we did I had the whole "do what you got to do and get the fuck off of me" attitude.

We are divorced now and I have a VERY healthy sex drive again but I seriously thought there was something wrong with me but it wasn't me at all. I just wasn't attracted to him. I didn't want to be with him emotionally or physically.

Ash, he doesn't appreciate what you do everyday for your children, for him or for yourself. If you didn't do it, you know damn well it wouldn't get done.

What does your mom say about him?

[dohcdelsol93]

Ashleys mom likes me!


As a close friend of Ash I am torn between saying leave his ass because he doesn't appreciate her and he's put her though alot of shit over the years.

the other side of me says maybe he will grow up, stick it out for the children.

[Kristen]

He won't grow up. How old is he?

My ex is 35, I'm 28. I was my ex husband's 2nd marriage. Holla

I can't even tell you for certain if the child from the 1st marriage is his or not. He signed the birth certificate but the kid doesn't have his last name. The mother never filed for child support. She didn't sign the divorce papers. The mother told him the kid was his then told him it was then told him she wasn't sure. He won't get a paternity test.

[Susielr]

I swear most women are in this situation.
When I was reading the beginning of this thread I swear I was reading my life story.
The situation is exactly the same here.